We can spend our entire lives in scarcity . . . just waiting for the other shoe to drop and wondering when it will all fall apart. Or, we can lean into the uncertainty and be thankful for what we have in that precious moment. When I'm standing at the crossroads of fear and gratitude, I've learned that I must choose vulnerability and practice gratitude if I want to know joy.
I am still determined to be cheerful and to be happy in what ever situation I may be, for I have learnt from experience that the greater part of our happiness or misery is dependent upon our dispositions and not upon our circumstances.
People whose integrity has not been damaged in childhood, who were protected, respected andtreated with honesty by their parents, will be- both in their youth and adulthood- intelligent,responsive,empathic, and highly sensitive. They will take pleasure in lifeand will not feel any need to kill or even hurt others or themselves. They will use their power to defend themselves but not to attack others. They will not be able to do otherwise than torespect and protect those weaker than themselves, including their children, because this is what they have learned from their own experience and because it is this knowledge (and not the experience of cruelty) that has been stored up inside them from the beginning. Such people will be incapable of understanding why earlier generations had to build up gigantic war industry in order to feel at ease and safe in this world. Since it will not have to be their unconscious life-task to ward off intimidation experienced at a very early age, they will be able to deal with attempts at intimidation in their adult life more rationally and more creatively.
As quoted in How To Be An Adult: a handbook for on Psychological and Spiritual Integration.